A cancer diagnosis can be very isolating. Regardless of whether you are a patient or a caregiver, you can be immersed in reacting and adjusting to various aspects of cancer. The responsibility to find, manage and pay for care can be hugely overwhelming. It can be hard to feel hopeful, or have any sense of confidence in your ability to cope or make appropriate decisions, if you are feeling small and powerless and very much alone in the experience. Support groups can offer a network of comfort and encouragement, a place of support and recognition. They provide an environment where someone affected by cancer does not have to explain what he or she is going through because the other group members will understand.
What Does It Mean to Be a Part of a Support Group?
Support groups provide a chance to meet and interact with other people who can understand your experience. While friends and family members might be uncomfortable, maybe feeling useless or scared, not knowing what to say or do, the members of the support group, with the guidance of a trained moderator, can be there with you in your process.
Give—and receive—support. In addition to lessening one’s sense of isolation, support groups can be a source of valuable information. Not surprisingly, members find that sharing resources and coping skills can be highly rewarding, whether on the giving or the receiving end of the transaction. Topics often include where to find reliable medical information, how to communicate with doctors, challenges of treatment and coping techniques.
Every support group is different. Much of one’s experience in a support group depends on the chemistry of who is in the group and how it is moderated. One thing common to most groups is the potential for strong emotional expression, which can be uncomfortable for some people. Other factors to consider are how you feel sharing things about yourself in a group of people, and whether or not you can meet any attendance guidelines the group might have.
The group moderator is there to help. If you are feeling alone and needing information and emotional support, a group might be a valuable way of connecting with people to help you cope with your situation. If you have questions, reach out to the moderator so you can get the information to make an informed decision.
All of CancerCare’s support groups are led by professional oncology social workers who counsel people affected by cancer, providing emotional support and helping people access practical assistance.
Online Support Groups. At CancerCare, our online support groups take place using a password-protected message board format (not live chat) and are led by professional oncology social workers who offer support and guidance. Groups are held for 15 weeks at a time, and group members must register to join. After completing the registration process, members can participate by posting in the groups 24 hours, 7 days a week.
Telephone Support Groups. CancerCare’s telephone support groups allow other people from across the country who share similar concerns in weekly, regularly scheduled, one-hour sessions.
Face-to-Face Support Groups. Face-to-face support groups are held at CancerCare’s offices in New York City, Long Island, New Jersey, and Connecticut. Don’t live in those areas? We can help you find face-to-face support groups in your own community.
Edited by David Horne, LMSW