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- Intimacy During and After Cancer Treatment
- Dating and New Relationships: During and After Cancer
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- Counseling to Better Cope With a Cancer Diagnosis
- Counseling to Better Cope With Post-Treatment Survivorship
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- Tips for Managing Hair Loss
- Coping With Cancer as a Young Adult
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My teenage son has had body-image issues since having cancer. His treatments caused him to gain weight and surgeries left him with scars. How can I help him deal with this?
Body changes may make your teen feel uncomfortable about how they look. These feelings may be strong enough to make them want to avoid their friends, school, public places or having their picture taken. Adolescence is a time where teens engage in social comparisons, often comparing themselves to their peers and friends. It is important to validate your son’s concerns regarding his body image. Self-esteem is very fragile and is often impacted by not only how we view ourselves, but how others view us as well.
Keep an open line of communication with your son about this topic. Explain to him why his treatment is so important even though it has caused him to gain weight. Try to help him understand why his body is changing so that he can understand these changes are not permanent. You may also want to encourage him to engage in some types of physical activity when he is feeling up to it (activities approved by his oncologist or physical therapist). Also, you may want to consult with a nutritionist to create helpful and healthy eating plans while on treatment.
It is important for your son to understand the reason behind his surgeries and scarring. Many times, a conversation before surgery can help teens prepare for body changes so that they are not such a shock. However, after the surgery site has healed, you can experiment with different types of make-up and concealers (there are special ones for scars). Also, different clothing styles may be able to cover the areas that your son is not comfortable exposing.
You can support your son during this time by doing some of the following:
- Providing an outlet to express his feelings (art, music, writing, etc.)
- Listening if and when he wants to talk about body image changes
- Letting him know that you understand what he is feeling and that it is okay to feel the way that he does
Creating a safe space for him to share what he is going through is important. If necessary, reach out to your son’s social worker through the hospital or a child life specialist. It is possible that outside support is necessary in order to make your son feel heard.
If you need additional support, feel free to reach out to CancerCare’s Hopeline (800-813-4673). We can provide psychosocial support as well as local referrals as needed.
I was diagnosed with cancer in 2017 and need dentures and an eye exam. Are there organizations that can assist? If you can help me find an organization who will help me so I can have my self confidence again, I would really appreciate it.
I am sorry to hear about your dental and vision struggles for the past couple of years. Here are possible resources for both the vision and dental that you can explore.
- Dental Lifeline Network - Select your state and see what programs are available
- American Dental Association - Get information on volunteer dentist programs, as well as find a dentist in your area
- National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research - Find resources and suggestions on how to get dental services
- New Eyes for the Needy (973-376-4903) - Purchases new prescription eyeglasses through a voucher program for children and adults in the United States who cannot afford glasses on their own. Client must work through a social worker, case worker or agency to submit an application. Applications must be submitted with a copy of a recent eye prescription (applicants must have had their eyes examined within the past 12 months)
- Lions Club International - Get assistance (grant) or find possible resources
Both Dental and Vision
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Health Centers
- Remote Area Medical - Provides mobile medical clinics for medical, dental and vision services
- National Association of Free and Charitable Clinics - Search for free and charitable clinics in your area